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From the moment we’re born, society socializes us to find a mate and live happily ever after, but this is a much more arduous feat than is glamorized in fairy tales, romance movies, and the media.
It’s not a walk in the park for our heterosexual counterparts either, but as a community, we gay men face unique challenges that pose even more obstacles. From my clinical experience and the literature I’ve read, gay dating is so difficult because…
The latter scenario ultimately makes them invisible or shields them from any real contact from men outside their circle who may find them interesting.
I’ve conducted polls on my site about assertiveness in approaching men, and the overwhelming majority of respondents indicated they take a passive stance when it comes to dating and only wait to be approached by someone to have a conversation that could potentially lead to a dating opportunity.
It’s hard enough being gay, so why aren’t we more compassionate, understanding, and empathetic to others in our brotherhood who live the same marginalized gay status and experience?
Not to keep mentioning technology as a culprit, but the advent of texting and chatting within online platforms has caused a breakdown of conventional manners and social etiquette.
Our gay community also tends to glamorize the party-and-play (PNP) culture, further contributing to the potential for substance abuse problems.
It’s obvious how psychological problems can manifest as a result and how many troubled individuals turn to substances and/or addictive behavior to self-medicate and cope.
For those truly desiring a long-term relationship, this can create frustration and a major barrier.
And this fuels further traumatization and disconnection.
Being gay in a homophobic society is hard enough with the maltreatment we receive, but when we turn on each other within our own community, this further traumatizes us and creates more distance, mistrust, and jadedness between us as individuals and compromises any chances for positive dating experiences.
This further complicates the dating landscape when we don’t have healthy prospects to engage.
This is both a micro- and a macro-level problem that needs intervention.