Dating book for black women who want to date
He’d already branded their black fetus less desirable than the one he created with a white woman. Black men are disproportionately losing the fight to overcome those crises, while black women are desperately trying to flourish, creating an imbalance of available men versus women.
“There are no black guys on my campus,” one girlfriend lamented to me recently about her university, where she feels dating options are severely limited. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, of associate's and bachelor's degrees awarded to black students between 20, more than 60 percent went to black women.
Not only did I leave college with tens of thousands of dollars in student loan debt, but I have struggled for years to find full-time work, despite sending out resume after resume. Black women are twice as likely to be unemployed, compared to white women, according to the Bureau of Labor.
And while some would pin this on black women being more likely to work in fields with lower pay, that fails to acknowledge the reality of name-based hiring discrimination.
Say I continue to be under-employed, my investment in my education proving a waste, I could, if we were married, harm my partner’s credit, currently our only life line.It's not just that getting hitched could potentially harm our finances—there are actual, tangible costs.The new Pay As You Earn plan (revised in 2015), which determines student loan payment caps, helps single earners, but can drastically increase monthly payments for married couples.I beat the odds that insisted I would never find a suitable partner to marry. Marriage should create a safety net for couples, but for some black women like me, it just means a whole host of new problems to navigate.While I was worried about finding a suitable guy, I overlooked the ways that I could be “unsuitable.” I failed to recognize that America disincentives marriage for black women trying to bootstrap their way out of the generational hardship created by centuries of disenfranchisement and discrimination.